June 4, 2006
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Rose Comes Home
Her birthmother died two years after she was born. Her adoptive parents were two of the most emotionally abusive people I've encountered. Her adopted family's grandmother is 97, and she's maintained a loving relationship there with several telephone calls a week. Her adoptive father told her two days ago that he was leaving Florida soon and never wanted to hear from or about her again. She is NOT safe, IMHO, where she is, certainly not long-term and whether or not she will be allowed to stay or be kicked out on her friend's father's whim is not at all clear.
She's called me, "my real mommy" and my apartment, "my real home" because you are the first person ever to really love me, since shortly after we met and pled with me often in the past to let her stay with me, but she needed more than I could dig out of myself then. Now, not only does she need to get out of where she is, but the many phonecalls over the past few days have convinced me that she's made so much progress (and I'm finally on decent meds) that I've asked her if she wants to come and live with me.
I think we both cried when she said "yes!" but I am looking forward to this.
Now to find a way to get a ticket... the halfway house where she stayed until recently is still the payee on her SSI check and will be until the first of next month, so we can't use that. She's off to a shelter later today while I see what I can manage before her payee changes and she can get hold of her own money...
love ya,
pearlbamboo
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Thank you all for the time you took to think about the question I posed. I've read her all the replies and we've had extended conversations about them. She also expresses her appreciation to each of you.
Comments (5)
You must know best but this still makes me nervous.
I hope everything works out for you. =)
Wow, I'm so proud of you both and happy for you. Relationships of any kind are hard work, but it will be mutually beneficial and rewarding.
Bless you for the willingness to extend yourself in a very challenging situation. Hope you will make sure your own support system is solidly in place, for you will certainly need it. I was a proctor parent for a few years for adolescent girls who had been in trouble with the law and had addiction problems. It was rewarding but very hard.
Sorry I have been away from commenting for so long. I have been reading about this girl. You are very generous to try to help her. I hope it goes ok for both of you. You have a loving heart.
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